Frequently Asked Questions
My Partner does not hit me; does this mean I am not being abused?
No. Many women believe that domestic violence is about being physically hurt, but assaults form only a small part of the controlling and coercive behaviour used by perpetrators. You do not have to be hit to suffer domestic abuse, for many women the psychological and emotional aspect of the abuse they suffer is more damaging.
Is this my fault?
It is a myth sometimes used by perpetrators that they behave in this way because you made him. It is never your fault! In blaming you a perpetrator is trying to justify his behaviour. He is an adult who is accountable for his own behaviour.
If the abuse is that bad why doesn’t she just leave?
It is often assumed by people that a woman does not leave an abusive relationship because she is weak or must like it. This is not true and for many women who have invested time and energy into a relationship it is hard to walk away from it because he is using fear to make her stay or because the woman wants the relationship to work. This is especially true when there are children involved.
What happens after I make an appointment?
When you come in to see the support worker you will have an informal chat to ascertain your needs and your concerns. We will then look together at ways we can keep you safe from further violence within your situation. This may take only a few phone calls or it could mean a further appointment. In either case we will not pressure you to act in a way in which you believe would make you unsafe. If you have children we do have some toys and a television to occupy them whilst we chat.
What if I don’t have a solicitor?
We are in touch with several solicitor firms and can make an appointment for you to see one of them here at My Sister’s Place. They will ascertain if you are eligible for legal help and can help you with divorce, child contact or injunctions.
